One of the most precious wedding moments is seeing the adorable flower girl and ring bearer strut down the aisle. If you have a special young one in your life, maybe you’ve been considering including them in your ceremony. The prance down the aisle of a flower girl or ring bearer always brings the audience laughs and smiles. However, you should consider a few things before choosing a flower girl and including one on your wedding day. 

Age Matters

If you are looking for a perfect experience with your flower girl rather than just the cuteness for photos, age is something to consider. Flower girls between the ages of five to eight are best as they will follow directions and understand their responsibility. Younger ages such as three to five tend to need guidance and help walking down the aisle. If you have a younger flower girl in mind who is a special part of your life that you want to handle these duties, recognize that they will most likely need help from a parent or an older flower girl.

Parent Involvement

Not all couples recognize how much the parent of the child will need to be involved. When discussing with your little bearer what her flower duties are, you’ll need to make sure the parent understands. They will need to help practice, make their child feel comfortable, and commit to attending rehearsals and arriving early for the wedding. Choose a flower girl you are in close contact with the parent so you can have the peace of mind that everything coordinated will happen as planned.

Family Opinions

If you choose a flower girl in your family, you may want to consider if that is going to cause any conflict with other family members. Say you choose just one niece or little cousin; will that leave out anyone else and cause resentment? As much as your wedding day should be about you and your partner’s wishes, it would be in your benefit to think through if you should have a party of flower girls so everyone is involved and no one has their feelings hurt. 

A Party of Flower Girls

If you decide to have more than one flower girl for whatever reason, this can lead to a beautiful experience! Sometimes having multiple flower girls can provide you with the best-case scenario given no one is left out, and you can have younger girls included since there are older flower girls to encourage and help out. Think of how much fun they all will have together and the memory this will make!

Personality

Not all little girls will be comfortable walking down the aisle by themselves with all eyes on them. When choosing a flower girl for your wedding, keep in mind their personality. You want your flower girl to feel confident and to be smiling while tossing her flowers. One that will get scared and run away to walk the aisle will make for an awkward experience. Choose a flower girl that is excited to fulfill her duties and have all the attention on her!

Choosing a flower girl can be complicated, but it shouldn’t be the bulk of your stress during wedding planning. Having a flower girl can be a memorable experience for everyone involved. The photos you’ll have afterward will be ones that you, the flower girl, and her parents will cherish. If you keep in mind these steps when choosing your flower girl, you’ll be sure that your wedding day goes exactly as you wish!